Racial Fetishization within your sex life * warning lots of "bad words" in this lol

With the climate of everything that is going on I just wanted to make a post to address some issues that I and many other peoples have experienced. I do think it is important to recognize any toxic behavior you are exhibiting when it comes to partners. This post in no way meant to exclude the LGBTQA+ community, these issues transmit through all the realms. 

It is important to not have any expectations of what a person can do sexually just because of their race/ethnicity.  I myself have witnessed and experience the bias and fetishization of Black women, from expecting to have someone dick "clapped" on or the "gawk gawk twist combo" crap.  It is also the automatic assumption that Black women always have a big butt or big titties, which is simply not true. As everyone knows,  everyone comes in different shapes and sizes, so it's ridiculous to assume. Also a lot of people are referencing porn/celebrities when it comes to the "typical" bodies for Black Women, and that is unhealthy.  You have to analyze WHY you are attracted to a Black Woman if you have a reasoning, which I think is important for separating preferences from bias/fetish. Generally if you are attracted to a certain race because of stereotypical features, I would challenge you to ask yourself if you have a fetish ?  Do you look at that person as that , a person or do you see her as a big booty black woman who can probably ride your dick off into oblivion ? 

Also something to clear up is that Black women vulvas are the same as everyone elses. They have pigment of our skin tone for the pubic/ outer labia and the same pink bits as everyone else on the inner labia/vagina. Black Women are not mutants or something, stop treating them like exotic zoo animals.  This includes people on sexual conquests !  

People do not realize when you say " I've never been with a Black chick/girl before"  how dehumanizing and Fetishizing that is.  You basically treated a human being as if you are going to experiment on their body, why do you feel like that is okay?  Why do you feel as thought that is a compliment to a Black Woman ?  SURPRISE it's not a compliment ma'dude, no matter how you "didn't mean it that way" , you literally referred to someone as if your about to get on a new roller coaster.  Plus think about it, when you are saying that, what are you expecting from that person aside from a list of stereotypes ?

Also do misinterpret my post as ignoring fetishizaton of other POC and Black Men , but I feel as though as a Black Woman I can only speak for myself, my experiences and what I have witnessed. 

Moral of the story ? STOP DOING THAT SHIT.  You aren't complimenting anyone or being cute, it's wrong. Fuck or date someone for who not WHAT they are and don't treat them like they are a zoo animal.  That's all folks ! 

Genital health aka what not to do with your bits !

Long time no see, sorry I've been kinda MIA I got lazy with the posts and was enjoying some good binges. At any rate I think it's important to go over caring for your bits ! Most of what I am going to go over works for both penis and vulva bits.  It is important to remember that the tissue and anatomy we share is literally the same with different configuring. 

Now when you're going throughout the day you want to make sure that you are wearing properly fitted clothes. I commonly see people wearing pants that are too small for them and this can cause your bits to be suffocated.  The main thing I see being worn too the skin is underwear !  If your underwear is digging into your skin with no give , they are TOO SMALL ! Wearing underwear that is too small for you can cause chaffing ,rash,acne, skin irritation, hair bumps, yeast and bacterial infections. This is the case for all kinds of bodies and some people are not as observant as others to the signs. 

If you are going to the gym, hiking, etc and sweating make sure you are changing underwear when possible. Try to wear breathable underwear, SPECIFICALLY COTTON.  Underwear labeled as "Breath" often feel light weight and comfy but they are trapping sweat on your body.  Shower if possible and if not the next best thing would be changing undies/clothes. Try not to use if possible baby wipes,"feminine" or genital wipes ,they just mix scented chemicals with bacteria that is already present and not really cleaning.

When washing up, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT wash your bits with heavily scented soaps or anything that contains glycerin !  And YES that includes Summers Eve aka "Feminine" wash. Glycerin is a known irritant for the skin and your mucous membranes are extremely sensitive. My rule of thumb is if it can't go into your mouth, shouldn't be on your bits. Most crotch soaps will strip and irritate your skin and strip you of your PH!  Most people will say that these soaps work for them but it's important to remember that sometimes when you're using a specific product for a long time your body will become reliant on it. Also it good to remember people that your bits are NOT going to smell like berries and cherry blossoms.  Your bits are a MOIST orifice that should smell like one !  Your breath doesn't smell great all the time and that's natural. 

* side note; for people who wash their body with all one scented soap or with shampoo/conditioner ( yes people do this), stop doing that. Very few soaps are exception to this rule. That is all.  

Piggy backing off of the last sentence we go to the topic of smell.  There is nothing that your bits are "supposed to" smell like! Your moist bits are exactly that, MOIST BITS.  Your bits contain both good and bad bacteria, They are always going to have some kind of smell.  The only smells you should be concerned about is if there is fish,garbage/rancid or very strong ammonia  Those are the only instances in which you should see a physician if possible. For folks with vulvas, DO NOT DOUCHE, EVER !

Douching is TERRIBLE for vaginal health and often exasperates issues since your removing natural defense mechanisms within your body.  The same applies to enemas as well. 

Please do not reference someones diet to their scent.  Yes what you eat can effect how you smell but you have no control on how your body processes that food. Some people are very sensitive to food and these scents are released from their bodies. It is very natural for someone to smell like onions/curry/asparagus, etc , basically things that are very pungent are going to come out of your sweat glands. Surprise your crotch sweats, but is it really a bad thing if you smell like curry or onions, both of those things sound yummy.  

SUMMARY 

1. Wear clothes that fit properly and pick the right underwear style for you. 
2. Change your underwear,preferably cotton, when able if too sweaty.
3. Don't wash your bits with heavy soaps/shampoos/conditioners.
4. Let your bits smell like bits ! It's natural!  Don't try to change your pheromones !