With the climate of everything that is going on I just wanted to make a post to address some issues that I and many other peoples have experienced. I do think it is important to recognize any toxic behavior you are exhibiting when it comes to partners. This post in no way meant to exclude the LGBTQA+ community, these issues transmit through all the realms.
It is important to not have any expectations of what a person can do sexually just because of their race/ethnicity. I myself have witnessed and experience the bias and fetishization of Black women, from expecting to have someone dick "clapped" on or the "gawk gawk twist combo" crap. It is also the automatic assumption that Black women always have a big butt or big titties, which is simply not true. As everyone knows, everyone comes in different shapes and sizes, so it's ridiculous to assume. Also a lot of people are referencing porn/celebrities when it comes to the "typical" bodies for Black Women, and that is unhealthy. You have to analyze WHY you are attracted to a Black Woman if you have a reasoning, which I think is important for separating preferences from bias/fetish. Generally if you are attracted to a certain race because of stereotypical features, I would challenge you to ask yourself if you have a fetish ? Do you look at that person as that , a person or do you see her as a big booty black woman who can probably ride your dick off into oblivion ?
Also something to clear up is that Black women vulvas are the same as everyone elses. They have pigment of our skin tone for the pubic/ outer labia and the same pink bits as everyone else on the inner labia/vagina. Black Women are not mutants or something, stop treating them like exotic zoo animals. This includes people on sexual conquests !
People do not realize when you say " I've never been with a Black chick/girl before" how dehumanizing and Fetishizing that is. You basically treated a human being as if you are going to experiment on their body, why do you feel like that is okay? Why do you feel as thought that is a compliment to a Black Woman ? SURPRISE it's not a compliment ma'dude, no matter how you "didn't mean it that way" , you literally referred to someone as if your about to get on a new roller coaster. Plus think about it, when you are saying that, what are you expecting from that person aside from a list of stereotypes ?
Also do misinterpret my post as ignoring fetishizaton of other POC and Black Men , but I feel as though as a Black Woman I can only speak for myself, my experiences and what I have witnessed.
Moral of the story ? STOP DOING THAT SHIT. You aren't complimenting anyone or being cute, it's wrong. Fuck or date someone for who not WHAT they are and don't treat them like they are a zoo animal. That's all folks !
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